Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder

Dear Lily,

There will be many times you will encounter the saying ‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ and as many times as you hear this phrase, you will at times doubt it in yourself. Don’t.

When you were a baby family always said you were beautiful. When I held you in my arms for the first time, I knew you were beautiful. But as you get older, you won’t hear it as much from people around you. You will most likely hear and the see the words beauty, beautiful, gorgeous from movies, television, social media or whatever is the current media medium in your world today. You will see pictures of what the world thinks the meaning of beautiful is. Maybe skinny models, photoshopped faces and perfect teeth. (Side note: I apologise right now for your teeth; that you certainly got from my side of the family).

You may not look like Jessica Alba or Jennifer Lawrence (modern day beauties), but I didn’t raise you to concentrate your beauty on the outside. I raised you to always believe in yourself, even when no one else does. To be strong in spirit, when everyone around you may not be. To be kind and respectful to people you meet, even if they are not nice to you. Everyone grew up differently to you and their definition of beauty may be different to you, don’t argue with them, just listen and respectfully disagree.

So, what is beauty to me?

To me beautiful person is someone who can hold their head high, who is logical, but is not afraid to be emotional and sensitive. A cry once in a while is cleansing for the soul. You can’t always be strong dear girl. Beauty is not only looking good, but feeling good. When I see a beautiful person in the street, I see a happy person, I see a confident person, I see someone not afraid to be vulnerable. I see someone who is not afraid to be themselves and not really listen to the negatives around them. I see a person who is kind and loving to those who matter to them. I see a beautiful soul first, their smile and their genuine interest in people then I see their face.

When you are a genuine person, this shows on the outside. So concentrate on being beautiful on the inside and look after yourself, the outside will soon follow.

“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a Woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows.” Audrey Hepburn

“The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.” Audrey Hepburn

You too may have your definition as you get older and it may change over time, let’s talk about this over hot chocolate and some chocolate mousse. Just don’t tell your dad about the chocolate mousse I secretly made for you.

X Mummy