~time on your own…refreshing~

Dear Lily,

During one week in my 30’s while I was away on my own for my birthday, I realised something. Spending time with yourself can bring many emotions and feelings you normally wouldn’t have, especially when you are surrounded by a big family and friends on a daily basis.

It was during one of these rare moments I realised that there is no need to feel guilty leaving love ones behind for a few days. I remember telling my family, I was driving four hours away on my own in my new car, and that I will message them when I have arrived. The very first time I did this, I was terrified but excited. Terrified, because I had never driven to the country alone for more than 2 hours. It was unchartered waters for me at the time, and I had never been to this place before.

Excited, because it was somewhere new and a place where I didn’t know anyone. Excited, because I was by myself and I could do what I wanted, when I wanted without someone knocking at my door on a regular basis.

It was during the first alone-long-drive that I realised that people need the time away from work, family, friends and other commitments to just rejuvenate. It’s always a refreshing time away when you stay in a place where you can observe nature and feel nature. But, if you are the type that has a buzz in the city, by all means stay in the hustle and bustle of the city, to rejuvenate.

I did many things on this trip, that I still do today on my own. I ate brunch at a nearby cafe, went shopping for food and drinks, walked around town, watched movies, cooked, read books, went in the spa and just sat on the balcony with my thoughts.

I had many thoughts while I was dining in my rented house, mostly what I wanted to do with my life for the next few years. I also reflected on the year that had passed; things that were sad and miserable, but also moments that were happy and peaceful. These moments, no matter how sad or happy, were always fondly remembered by key people who were there during those moments.

Gratitude was a message I took from my get away too. Grateful for the people in my life that have helped me grow into the person I am now. Some are no longer in my life and some still are.

Take these moments of rest, to reconnect with yourself and to de-stress from what life has thrown at you. Don’t feel guilty you are leaving love ones behind, they will understand that this is time that you need for yourself. Because, I guarantee that you will come out of this trip a better person with a better understanding of yourself. And when you better understand yourself, and learn to better love yourself, then those around you will be loved better for this self realisation and self discovery you have made, all in just a few short days.

Take time to dream, take time to plan, but also take time to rest.

Lovingly thinking of you always,

Mum x


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