Dear Lily,

As you get older, and hopefully wiser, your body goes through many changes.  One day in your early teens, or maybe even younger, you will wake up with a sore stomach and possibly a headache. Do not be alarmed, this is normal honey. Sometimes it is so painful, that you just want to crawl and just stay in bed.  Don’t be afraid, this pain doesn’t last long. Heck, if you can handle these monthly disturbances to your daily life, you can handle any other discomforts your body will put you through.

Besides the cramps and headaches (which may at times feel like someone is drilling into your skull), you also have to contend with the blood. Yes, blood. Sometimes it feels as if there is always a constant flow of it, and you worry that it would leak through your clothing. Don’t be embarrassed, every woman has felt this and have had ‘accidents’ as well. So I have some tips for you, to manage this monthly girlies.

It is up to you if you want to wear a pad or a tampon, whatever is comfortable for you. Remember, you must always do what you feel is comfortable for you and your body. I say, try both and you may like using both a tampon and pad for different occasions. Just make sure you always wash your hands before and after changing.

If you ever run out of pad or tampons, because the girlies have suddenly crept up on you while enjoying a holiday, don’t be embarrassed to ask another woman if they have one. Every woman has had to ask another at least once in their life, which then leads me to another tip.

Always, always keep a couple of tampons and pads in ALL your bags. You just never know when your body decides to pick on you and at what occasion.

It doesn’t hurt to wear those big panties as your secondary underwear, while you have your period for extra leakage protection from your clothes.  Or, what I have personally done in the past is to wear boxer shorts as well as my underwear.

If you feel the need to, shower twice a day while you have your girlies. Actually, for me a hot shower always helps with the headache and stomach cramps. It also, doesn’t hurt to shower twice a day even when you are not on your menstruation.  This is the time to be really hygienic and change your pad and tampon as often as you can. You will learn this over time.

If you are in school, don’t be afraid to tell the teacher you need to go to the toilet, no need for you to give a reason, they will know.  You also don’t need to hide this from your girlfriends, it is good to let them know that the reason you are not feeling well, is you have cramps due to your period. There is no shame in going to the toilet as often as you want to, just tell them you have bowel issues.

It is a myth that women are moody or hormonal during their period, I think this was a myth perpetuated by men who couldn’t deal with our colourful personalities. Not all women are moody.

Drink tea, chamomile tea or green tea or oolong tea has always helped me with my cramps and headaches. However, if the headaches do become a migraine, don’t be afraid to use prescribed painkillers. Just do not rely on them too much. You shouldn’t have to take them for more than a day.

Lastly, don’t hate this part of your life, learn to embrace it. Once you start your menstruation process, it means that you are growing up to be a woman. That in itself is beautiful; it is a beautiful process, although painful. Menstruation is part of being a woman; it’s your body telling you that one day you are ready to carry a miracle inside of you, another human being.


Embrace it my love,

Mum xxx

PS. It also gets you out of doing gymnastics or swimming at school, unless you love gymnastics, well that’s great too. Men are very understanding with this, just mention you have your period and they leave you alone, because they don’t want to hear anything about it. That’s always a good thing.

Do you have other tips about how to live with the girlies? Feel free to share them below.



~Right man…wait~

Dear Daughter,

I’m writing this letter about twenty years early (or forty if your father has his way), but one day you will read these words and they will connect. They will mean something to you. What I need to tell you can be summed up in one word:  WAIT.
Let me explain…

Yesterday I was resting in my favorite chair. It was about 5:00 pm, and I had been feeling under the weather all day. I sat and watched your daddy take stacks of folded clothes from the couch into our bedroom to put them away. Stacks that I folded two days ago and that I could have easily put away, but I hadn’t gotten around to it. He didn’t say anything; he just did it. He did it for me because he knew I needed help. And as I watched him, I had to fight back tears because I suddenly had this thought: “I hope Molly finds this some day.”  And I think you will, if you can remember to wait. Wait on the guy who finishes your chores for you – who comes through in little ways to let you know he cares.

Wait on the man who looks you in your eyes and holds your gaze as he tells you you’re beautiful. Wait on the man who has a habit of telling you this when your hair is greasy, you’re makeup-free, and you’re wearing yesterday’s sweatpants. You’ll know he means it.  Wait on the man who gets up and goes to work. Wait for the guy who sacrifices in order to provide for his family. Wait for the guy who has a strong work ethic and takes pride in what he does. Wait for that man who dreams big and invites you to dream with him.

And when your dreams seem too big, too scary to ever come true, I hope you wait for the one who listens to your insecurities but then speaks truth into your heart and breathes confidence into your spirit. This man will bring you to tears by reading Proverbs 31 to you, telling you YOU’RE that woman, and believing it with every fiber of his being.

Wait for the man who thinks for himself – the man who stands apart from the masses unapologetically because he is rooted and grounded in God. Wait for the man who doesn’t need anyone’s approval. The man who teaches you how to be brave and courageous. The man who will fight for you and for what he believes in. Wait for this man.
Wait for the man who looks at the stars with you and ponders the mysteries of the heavens. Wait for the one who writes you poems…not all the time, but just enough to remind you how deeply his love for you goes. Wait for the man who buys you jewelry and flowers, but no stuffed animals (because that’s just cheesy)!

Wait for the man who makes you feel strong, capable, and worthy. Wait for the man who would never disrespect you. The right one will honor you even when he’s out of your presence. You wait on this man, and your heart will never doubt him.

Wait on the man who allows God to break him down and mold him into the man he’s meant to be. Wait on the one who has a calling to serve his Heavenly Father. Wait on the man who isn’t perfect, but who keeps pressing on, getting back up, and learning from his mistakes.

And finally, wait on the man who smacks your booty when he walks by, who hugs you for a full 60 seconds when you need him to, and who gives you amazing massages, even though you’re quite possibly the world’s worst masseuse and will never be able to repay him!!

My darling daughter, one of these days you will be wondering if it’s love and if some boy is the right one. My prayer is that your daddy will set such a high standard in your eyes, that you will never be tempted to settle for anyone less than who you deserve. Don’t get in a hurry to find love. Don’t feel pressured to give yourself away. WAIT. Wait on the Lord, and He will send you a man who is everything to you that your father is to me. God will grow the love between you as the years pass. Your patience will be rewarded.

Wait…please wait!!

-BraveGirl Emily

(Original blog can be found here: http://bravegirlcommunity.com/2015/04/08/wait-for-this-man/)